If you happened to turn on the Republican convention the
other night in the middle of Ann Romney's speech, you might've been surprised
to hear what sounded like the wife of the Republican Presidential candidate
coming out of the closet. She screamed," I love you women!" And the
crowd of presumably conservative Republicans applauded! You may have concluded
that the Republican Party has come a long way towards tolerance and respect for
all women.
Of course, that was not the case. Her speech, an effort
to court women voters, seemed like something from the "Leave It To
Beaver" era. She was clearly alluding to the "wife who stays at home with
the children, the husband who goes to work and is not very involved with the
kids" kind of family. She told us that it's the mothers who hold the
family – and the country – together. "It's the moms who always have to
work a little harder, to make everything right."
What about the dads? Nobody at the convention seemed to care
about fathers not being viewed as particularly necessary. To them, the
important thing was to get the message out that Republicans think that women
are just great.
It didn't matter to the people there that she didn't talk
much about working mothers, or specifically about families in which the husband
stays home and the wife goes to work. No, her comments were about what I'm sure
many conservatives embrace as the "traditional" roles of men and
women. Perhaps that was an accurate reflection of American families – in 1957.
This attitude is quite consistent with the Republican
platform and positions on gender issues. Republicans can be against things like
paying for birth control for women and legislation that would ensure equal pay
in the workplace because those positions come from values from that bygone era
that they want to revert to.
The convention may have avoided tropical storm Isaac, but
the storm that they can't get away from is the one caused by Missouri
Congressman Todd Akin. When he talked about "legitimate rape" and a
woman being able to avoid getting pregnant just by "shutting down" if
she wants to, even most conservative Republicans thought he went too far.
The goofy concept that women can just will themselves to
avoid pregnancy is a pretty appealing theory. Not only would this render
abortions unnecessary, but women wouldn't need to use birth control, either.
They could just let their bodies decide if they want to get pregnant or not.
And if this works for pregnancy, what about the common cold? If women just
concentrated a little harder, you'd never see them sniffle again.
Akin was pressured into an apology, and he gave one. Sort
of. He said, "The mistake I made was in the words I said, not in the heart
I hold." I wonder what the proper words would have been for
"legitimate rape" and a woman's body "shutting down" to
avoid pregnancy.
I guess it was the wording, not his sentiments that
outraged so many Republicans, because a great number of his Republican brothers
and sisters share his opinions. The Vice Presidential nominee, Paul Ryan and
many Republicans agree with Akin that rape does not justify abortion. They are
entitled to this opinion. However, I don't understand why they think it's okay
to get the government involved in making their opinion the law.
Because of the reaction to Akin and to Mitt Romney's low
polling numbers among women, there has been a great effort to show the country
that Republicans really do like "the ladies." However, they've also created
some confusion. Since Akin's comments, Republicans have gone out of their way
to say how wonderful women are. They are extraordinary human beings capable of
far more things than their male counterparts. Yet, if they are so special to
the point that, as Ann Romney said, "Women hold the country together,"
why can't they be trusted to make their own decisions about their bodies?